Written for ‘SheCanMagazine‘ where Jodie Moone is a Wellness Contributor.
Date Written: May 2021
I’m almost thirty, and up until two years ago, I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. This isn’t a new thing; it’s common. In 2016 The Philadelphia Inquirer wrote a piece on a 16-year-old girl who felt so anxious about her future she ended up in a therapist’s office. From the moment we hit teenagehood, our futures begin paving themselves, and we feel the pressure to make sure we make the right decision.
We tell ourselves that if we make the right decision when we are younger, we will avoid any bad decisions, we will always know where we are going. However, that tends not to be the case. For example, my father-in-law didn’t begin his dream job until he was in his forties, and I didn’t realize I wanted to write about mental wellness until I couldn’t find pieces that felt like me.
As women, we commit ourselves to labels that don’t exist by assuming all women wish to become mums and that a driven woman will struggle to marry. These assumptions bury themselves in our subconscious, making us nervous about pursuing a dream we only discover later in life.